A life of Pain

No one wants to feel pain. But pain is necessary in order for us to know that we are alive. Some situations can be avoided once you have experienced the pain caused by that particular thing. We learn our life lessons with every experience we have. And pain is there to remind us what not to do again. When we are small children our parents teach us that playing with fire will burn us, thus causing pain. But did we always listen? There is something about being told what we shouldn't or can't do that makes us do it anyway. So we in turn get burned. However; once we do we are more cautious before doing it again next time. Had it not been for us taking a chance on our curiosity and getting burned, we wouldn't have known that we would get hurt. Pain is there for a reason. And without it we would keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again. So, the next time you wish you didn't have to feel the pain of whatever; remember that it is there for the purpose of teaching you that a life with pain is better then a life without pain because that isn't a life at all if you never feel anything.

Why we should forgive

Forgiveness is the key to healing. Unforgiveness delays our happiness in life. When we don't forgive someone that has hurt us, we give power to unforgiveness and we hurt even more. We have all heard the saying; "Forgivenss is not for the other person, it's for you". A very true statement. Think of how many times you have been hurt in a situation and when you held on to the memory of it your pain and anger increased. Or the fact that hurting people hurt others. Which creates a vicious cycle of pain caused by unforgiveness. Even more importantly we should forgive because we want to be forgiven when we hurt someone. The sooner we start to forgive the sooner we start the healing process and begin down the road to happiness.

When the love of your life does'nt love you back

We all want to love someone and be loved by someone. So what do you do when the person you love doesn't love you back? Here are some of the things I can tell you that we all have done; Thinking that if we could just make that person happy by changing something like our hair, weight, the way we dress or any other small thing in hopes that they will feel more strongly about us. Most of us have tried that. Did it work for you? Or how about this one; Thinking well if I just wait it out for a while they will eventually feel the same way I do. How long did that idea last? But the most popular and harmful one of all is; Since he/she doesn't love me, I will start a relationship with someone else who does love me so I can get the love I need. Only problem is you don't love that person the same way. It is all damaging to any future success in a relationship. Even though the pain you feel runs deep and it hurts a long time; the hope is that Love is still out there for you. There is someone for everyone. And the one we want isn't always the person intended for us. That doesn't mean we can't or shouldn't love. It means until we find the love that is ours to have and receive, we are in practice and preparing to appreciate the love that we so desire, so it will last forever and no one can take it away. So, while you are waiting for that great love, keep preparing and practice how to give love back and embrass every experience with love while you wait. It will make it all the more worth the wait when you finally receive it.